Meditation and Desire

Eli Block, Co-President of OneTaste, posted the following quote on Facebook:  “That’s the bait and switch with Orgasmic Meditation (OM). We say you can have everything that you want, but what OM does is it burns off the desire for acquisition and instead shows you how to love.”  Nicole Daedone, founder of OneTaste.

My reply on Facebook:

“I love the initial quote, Eli.  So precise and on the spot. …  Another way to point at a similar insight: many meditators begin with the thoughts, ” *I* want to be enlightened. *I* want to feel bliss.”  Along the way they find out that for enlightenment and bliss to happen, the “I want” has to disappear. I, Prahas, has to cease to exist. I never get the goodies. Not that the goodies don’t arise — they most certainly do. It’s just that there is no one there to claim them. I love you, and I love this work, and I just love it!”

Eli replied:

“Hi Prahas!   I love you too!  I think you got something there. The only adjustment I’d offer is that you, Prahas, do in fact, get fed. We need you fed and nourished deeply with all the goodies. As I’ve heard before “you can’t eat the menu.”  This isn’t a path of self deprivation. That was really hard for me. I didn’t realize how deeply my programming “not to have” went. And I think there is a difference between serving the agenda of the ego and learning how to feed oneself. It is going to require very intense spiritual research with many donuts, ice cream cones, and cookies!”

I replied:

“Thank you for saying this, Eli!  My share at (our meeting) last night was I spend so much time and energy on Big D Desire, that I forget little d desire. My way of saying I forget to nourish myself in the human ways. And I resent that about myself. Earlier in the day (another teacher) gave me the opposite pole stroke: when I said I am grateful for what I have, and I am aware there is so much more, she reminded me this is not authentic gratitude. Which is true for me. I constantly bounce back and forth between these poles: standing in “I have needs too, and I love myself enough to allow them to be met,” and the other — drop wanting, and allow joy and gratitude to arise for what is. Love.”

And Eli replied:

“Yeah we’re a lot alike. Joy in ice cream brother. Nice and easy.”

From the highest peak

A reminder from the highest peak:


‘In Tibetan, the word for “body” is lü, which means “something you leave behind,” like baggage. Each time we say lü, it reminds us that we are only travelers, taking temporary refuge in this life and this body. In Tibet, people did not distract themselves by spending all their time trying to make their external circumstances more comfortable. They were satisfied if they had enough to eat, clothes on their backs, and a roof over their heads.


‘Going on, as we do, obsessively trying to improve our conditions, can become an end in itself, and a pointless distraction.


‘Would people in their right mind think of fastidiously redecorating their hotel room every time they checked in to one? ‘


– Sogyal Rinpoche